Tough Topics with Picture Books: Bodily Autonomy and Consent
By Angela Martinez, Children's Associate, Broken Arrow Library
Picture books provide an accessible and age-appropriate way to introduce children to important topics like safe touch and bodily autonomy. These concepts can be challenging to discuss, but picture books create a safe space where children can learn about personal boundaries, consent, and how to communicate their feelings. By using relatable characters and clear language, these books help children understand that their bodies belong to them and they have the right to say “no” to any touch that makes them uncomfortable.
One of the greatest strengths of picture books is their ability to present these lessons through engaging stories rather than direct lectures. Books that feature scenarios like a child refusing a hug, learning to express discomfort, or understanding the difference between safe and unsafe touch allow young readers to see these concepts in action. Illustrations reinforce the message by showing characters setting boundaries and seeking help when needed. This visual storytelling helps children recognize similar situations in real life and empowers them to advocate for themselves.
Picture books about bodily autonomy also emphasize respect for others. Children learn that just as they have the right to say no, they must also respect when others set boundaries. These books can also provide language for discussing difficult situations, making it easier for children to express if something feels wrong. When adults read these books with children, they create opportunities for open dialogue, reinforcing the idea that it is always okay to talk to a trusted adult about their feelings and experiences. By introducing these concepts early, we give children the knowledge and confidence to protect themselves and respect others. These stories not only provide reassurance but also lay the foundation for lifelong conversations about safety, consent, and personal autonomy.
Try these books out to start a discussion with your child. If they do not suit your family's needs, please ask your local librarian.
A Little Bit of Respect by Claire Alexander
Where Hands Go by Krystaelynne Sanders Diggs
Yes! No! a First Conversation About Consent by Megan Madison
Can I Give You a Squish? by Emily Neilson
Don't Touch My Hair! by Sharee Miller
Don't Hug Doug (he Doesn't Like It) by Carrie Finison
Rissy No Kissies by Katey Howes
From My Head to My Toes by Aly Raisman
